Who's really being cheap?

she said i was cheap, that i didn't tip, didn't buy her enough drinks, and her valentines flowers came a day late. i think only cheap people really care about money. i don't care if i pay a small amount or the bulk of a bill. i don't mind buying the drinks, nor the meal. all i do is as i'm told. you want to buy in rounds, then thats how i'll do it. you tell me what to throw in, thats what i'll throw. but don't add these things up and then call it cheap. isn't that the one who's really being cheap?

Who's really being cheap?
To tell you so, was bad manners. But if you're going to celebrate Valentine's, many prefer to do so on the actual day set for it, not the day after. Part of the hype, is getting those flowers on the actual day, so everyone can see just how special you are to someone. That they came a day late, says something, not only to her, but to whoever she was hoping to impress, which may have embarassed her.





True chivalry seems to have died as has the want for it that many women used to have. This leaves many men floundering, wondering what is expected from them, and many women irritated by either too much or not enough. Sounds like she expected more.





As to only cheap people really care about money, who sent the flowers late? Who was hurt by it? As to enough drinks, how many did she need? It seems to me, y'all have some issues. Your obsession with money, her's with having a show made over her.





But for the record, no woman wants to have to tell you what she wants. You're supposed to be able to read her mind, and act accordingly. If we have to tell you what we want, when we get it, it just isn't the same, doesn't have the same meaning. Contrary, aren't we?
Reply:Yes.





I am going to ask a similar question based on yours.
Reply:Sounds as both of you need to learn a bit about etiquette.





She: should keep her mouth zipped about not receiving all things she wants. Sounds rather crude to behave like this. Unless this is an official 1st class DATE, she should pay her own way.





You: should send flowers on time - makes the girl feel more appreciated.





Now think it over what is going on between U 2:


What kind of a relationship do you really have?


Is it important to both of you?


Do you care enough about each other to go the extra step in pleasing each other?


You two aren't married? Or R U?





Hope this helps in clarifying your situation.
Reply:Well, she sounds like a tough date! But unless the service is terrible, I would be embarrassed to have a date that didn't tip the server or bartender... Sometimes it's nice when someone does something without being asked! But that's a good point about what really makes people cheap...
Reply:slap on a pair and take control dude!
Reply:Fair point to the flowers, but was that within your control? Did you order them in plenty of time? If you did she should get off your case.


Valentine's shouldn't be about the money, it should be about making a bit of extra fuss over the one you love. Therefore, if she wanted more drinks she should have said so.


Ista's right, it was bad mannered of her to tell you that you didn't spend enough money.
Reply:You may not be cheap, but how and y did the V-day flowers come late? All you had to do was stop at a grocery store and buy a bouquet. Amazing that you didn't get dumped.
Reply:She sounds materialistic. Maybe take initiative instead of being told.
Reply:Doesn't sound like you're cheap. But you shouldn't do "as you're told". Do the right thing, if you are taking a girl out to dinner, you should take care of the bill and the drinks.


My flowers came a day late also, and I didn't mind, because I know his intention was good.


You guys should talk about this kind of thing.


Money can be a big problem in relationships.
Reply:anytime one gets flowers be gracious, thank the person and enjoy.
Reply:She's being cheap by going out with somebody she doesn't care for just because he spends money. You can't buy this woman's affection by spending more money on strangers!


Both of you would be happier in a different relationship.
Reply:I don't know if cheap is the right word...but she was being bitchy. Tell her to get over it, or she'll have to pay for everything she gets from now on.
Reply:Sounds like a whiney *****.


It's gonna get worse before it gets better.


run.


Run!


RUN!!!
Reply:RUN AWAY!!!!


any woman that will respect you will respect the fact that your money doesn't grow on trees. i love my girlfriend to death, and spoil her every way i can afford to. anytime we go to a restaurant i tell her to get what she wants, and if i'm on a budget i decide what I want based on price after she's decided. but she respects my overall lack of funds and never asks me for anything, and is always hesitant when ordering a meal. i also tip 20% rounded up to the nearest dollar though if we get good service, because waitresses only make about $2/hour and rely on tips. that's how they get paid if they do their job.